Today after five years I am able to understand the meaning of what my father told me when my kid was born!
I never realized that the way I am conducting my life each day-each second whether to do with job, cooking, talking to people around me, mannerisms I display in a restaurant, patience I show in other people’s conversations, irritation about traffic jams, emotions, observation, thoughts, ideas, stress, to small things like bargaining with the vegetable vendor my kid is a constant witness to the same.
Knowingly or unknowingly she is randomly picking up the attitude and words I showcase in small to big situations of everyday life. Sometimes when I find her reactions “weird” and try to correct the same the immediate response is “ Mama you do this way!”
The easiest self-defense mechanism I use to myself is, “I cannot be perfect everytime.” However my heart does undergo guilt of not imparting the right attitude which would be such an integral part of her upbringing apart from the best of the school I would try to send her to; apart from the best of the activities I am trying to indulge in her into and apart from the modern gizmos and gadgets which we try to provide her.
Attitude, Stress Management, Positive Thinking, Enthusiasm…. list is endless and most important which every working mom can relate to is handling motherhood n career with confidence, smile and enthusiasm instead of loads of guilt inside. Believe me whether you have a son or daughter managing everyday life with right attitude and words is the best gift you can give your kids to have much more successful and rewarding life.
We are wrong to assume that attitude and thought management can be guided when they grow up; they will learn as they face the society. They learn it right from the time they learn to express themselves generally between three to four years of age to begin with.
My father told me that evening, “You are not going to just upbring your child; you will be upbringing a generation to come by and which will pass on for many other generations to come”.
And I got it now!